💡 Core Issue: Overextension into others' emotional or physical space—seeking validation or control through excessive attunement.
💡 Goal: Reclaim internal boundaries, reduce hyper-vigilant attunement, and shift from external validation to self-anchored presence.
1.
Neurobiology & Autonomic Patterns of People-Pleasing & Intrusion
People-pleasing
and intrusion are dysregulated expressions of empathy—where self-other
boundaries are compromised.
|
Brain Region |
People-Pleasing (Self-Abandonment) |
Intrusion (Over-Attunement & Control) |
|
Insular Cortex (Body
Awareness & Social Attunement) |
Hyperactive—feels others' emotions
too strongly, lacks self-focus. |
Hyperactive—anticipates others’
needs but enforces their own agenda. |
|
Anterior Cingulate Cortex
(Social Monitoring, Error Detection) |
Overactive—excessive
self-criticism, seeking approval. |
Overactive—excessive scanning of
others’ responses for influence. |
|
Amygdala (Threat
Detection) |
Fear-driven—conflict avoidance,
fear of rejection. |
Control-driven—perceives
misalignment as a problem to correct. |
|
Prefrontal Cortex
(Executive Function, Perspective-Taking) |
Underactive—difficulty asserting
needs or holding boundaries. |
Overactive—orchestrates
interactions to maintain control. |
💡 Key Difference:
- People-Pleasing: Hyper-vigilance toward others'
needs, at the cost of self.
- Intrusion: Over-identification with
others' needs, leading to control or overstepping boundaries.
2. Primitive
Reflex Ties to People-Pleasing & Intrusion
💡 Both patterns emerge from reflexes related to
attachment, hyper-attunement, and excessive social vigilance.
|
Reflex |
How It Relates to People-Pleasing & Intrusion |
Repatterning Strategy |
|
Rooting Reflex |
Seeks external validation, struggles
with self-regulation |
Self-holding, pressure work,
strengthening core stability |
|
Moro Reflex (Social Overactivation Form) |
Heightened
startle to social cues, excessive adaptation to others |
Slow
exhalation, rhythmic self-soothing movements |
|
Fear Paralysis Reflex (FPR
- Over-Control Form) |
Inhibition of self-expression,
freezing in conflict |
Grounding, weight-bearing work,
breaking freeze cycles |
3. Somatic
Movement Plan for People-Pleasing & Intrusion
💡 Goal: Strengthen internal boundaries, reduce external
hyper-attunement, and reinforce self-anchored movement.
✅
Step-by-Step Movement Progression:
🟢 Stage 1: Reclaiming Internal Awareness
& Reducing Over-Attunement
- Hand-to-Chest Contact With Firm
Pressure (Bringing Awareness Back to Self).
- Slow Walking With Self-Focus
(Tuning Into One’s Own Movement Instead of External Monitoring).
- Peripheral Vision Training
(Reducing Tunnel Vision on Others’ Reactions).
🟢 Stage 2: Strengthening Boundaries &
Containment
- Weight-Bearing Grounding
(Reinforcing Physical & Energetic Stability).
- Push-Pull Resistance Work
(Practicing Strength Without Overextension).
- Breath-Held Movements (Training the
Nervous System to Hold Presence Without Over-Adapting).
🟢 Stage 3: Rebuilding Assertiveness &
Self-Presence
- Expanded Arm Movements With Stop
Gesture (Reinforcing Clear Physical Boundaries).
- Voice Activation With Firm
Exhalation (Speaking While Moving to Build Confidence).
- Partnered Awareness Exercises
(Practicing Boundary Awareness & Reciprocal Engagement).
4. TCM Sinew
Channel Activation for People-Pleasing & Intrusion
💡 Since both states involve excessive emotional
extension, they are linked to Ren, Chong, and involve Lung control.
✅
Primary Sinew Channels for People-Pleasing & Intrusion:
- Ren Mai (Hyper-Attunement, Lack of
Self-Containment, Emotional Dependence).
- Chong Mai (Loss of Self-Authority,
Over-Attachment to External Cues).
- Lung (Boundary Weakness, Excessive
External Scanning, Self-Containment Challenges).
✅
TCM-Based Somatic Techniques:
- Ren Mai Stabilization (Abdominal
Centering & Strengthening to Reduce External Scanning).
- Chong Mai Activation (Core
Reconnection to Establish Internal Strength).
- Lung Channel Stimulation (Enhancing
Boundaries, Reducing External Over-Identification).
5.
Bioenergetic Expressions of People-Pleasing & Intrusion
💡 Each structure expresses these patterns
differently—some through submission, others through control.
|
Bioenergetic Structure |
People-Pleasing & Intrusion Expression |
Somatic Holding Pattern |
Adjustment to the Intervention Plan |
|
Schizoid |
"I over-adapt to avoid rejection,
but stay emotionally distant." |
Weak grounding, avoids direct
engagement |
More core strengthening, grounding
touch, embodied presence |
|
Oral |
"I
need connection and will abandon my needs to get it." |
Forward-leaning
posture, breath-holding, fidgeting |
More
self-containment, core stability, slow breath expansion |
|
Masochistic |
"I suppress my needs and manage
others’ emotions instead." |
Deep muscular holding, suppressed
movement, over-controlled breath |
More release work, alternating
tension-relaxation, vocalization exercises |
|
Rigid/Narcissistic |
"I
insert myself into others’ space to maintain control." |
Upright
but stiff posture, forward-thrusting energy, tense jaw |
More
softening work, mirroring exercises, learning reciprocal engagement |
Final
Summary: Shifting People-Pleasing & Intrusion to Internal Stability &
Healthy Connection
|
Intervention Type |
Targeted Strategy |
|
Primitive Reflex Work |
Rooting, Moro (Social Overactivation),
Fear Paralysis (Inhibition Form) |
|
Somatic Movement |
Weight-bearing work, push-pull
exercises, boundary-setting gestures |
|
Sinew Channel Activation |
Ren (containment), Chong (core
strength), Lung (reducing external scanning) |
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